Wanting Your Own Way

I’ve never understood how an argument can last for hours upon hours. When that happens, there is a huge chance for resentment and hard feelings to set in and cause havoc in a relationship. It's that desire to get the last word or not feel as though you are being heard that brings confusion. It’s feeling as though things are one-sided. It is time to really look at the other person and make sure their needs are being met, even if yours are not. If both parties are doing this, it can do nothing but help.

If the “fights and quarreling” seem to be a thing that happens regularly with you and others, give some thought to why that is. Don’t be so quick to pass the blame to others for YOUR issue. It could very well be a flaw in your own life that is causing so much of it.

In realizing the unpleasant traits, you could throw up your hands and say, “I’m just a loser and nobody loves me”. Or you could get in the Word and follow the example that Jesus portrayed in dealing with others. He said what His Father wanted Him to say. He didn’t bring things into the conversation that was geared to hurt, it was always to help. He would state it and go on with His teaching. And what I see from the scripture, He didn’t need to go on and on for hours without making sure their needs were met. He saw a need and met it.

Be willing to see the other persons need and allow them to express without condemnation. Life is not always easy, but we need to quit making it so difficult. The more you give of yourself to others; you will receive in like manner. Make sure your desires match up with God’s desires for you.

James 4:1 NLT

[1] What is causing the quarrels and fights among you? Don't they come from the evil desires at war within you?

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